My journey began with an unfulfilling marriage and the longing of my soul.
It took leaving my marriage to discover that my longing was about much more than just sex.
For 17 years I was in a marriage where sexual intimacy had died between us.
At the same time, I was filled with a barely containable longing and desire.
What was going on?
Therapy didn’t help, and talking to my friends didn’t either. Most of them were in marriages where fulfilling sex was a thing of the past.
I tried to convince myself that turning away from this longing was a necessary sacrifice for the greater good of my marriage.
But I felt a part of me was dying.
It took leaving my marriage to discover that my longing was about much more than just sex. I discovered that sexuality was an energy: what ancient wisdom traditions across cultures teach is our creative life force that expresses in everything we do.
I call this energy the Sexual Soul.
And it’s first and foremost for ourselves.
My Sexual Soul was alerting me not just to the sexual disconnection in my marriage, but to all the ways I couldn’t be my full self.
The revelation of my Sexual Soul has led me on a feminine spiritual path of healing and self-development, and awakened gifts I didn’t know I had.
Now my life is abundant in intimate, authentic relationships that extend to friends, family—and most importantly—myself.
I have a capacity for joy, a trust in life, and a self-confidence that allows me to ride the waves of life and relationships with resilience and self-acceptance.
And I am doing work in the world that is both my passion and my calling: I help women who feel a deep unmet sexual longing, as I once did, so they can come into their full expression sexually—and in all areas of their life—as they come into the most powerful years of their life.
The four things I’ve learned on my journey
that form the foundation for all of my work:
Your Sexual Soul is SACRED.
Ancient wisdom traditions across cultures recognize that our sexual energy is our unique life-force essence - and that cultivating it is a necessary spiritual practice.
Trying to deny my Sexual Soul was denying my essential soul essence.Your Sexual Soul is for YOU.
It’s not for pleasing others, performing, or proving your worth.
It’s not something to give away in exchange for love, safety, or belonging.
This energy is not just about having a great lover. It’s for me in everything I do and everything I am.Your Sexual Soul is a taproot to your TRUTH.
Your Sexual Soul is the wise guide that holds the key to your healing, your pleasure and your authenticity. When you trust it, it will lead you everywhere you need to go.
My sexual longing was a thread that once I pulled it, unraveled my entire marriage, revealing all the things I was blind to. And it’s led me into the aligned life I always knew was possible.Your Sexual Soul needs YIN-YANG HARMONY to thrive.
Energetic dynamics in intimacy can make or break the sexual connection - and this holds true for your relationship with your sexual energy.
I spent my lifetime living from my yang (as many women do). Embracing the power of my yin transformed my sexual experiences and relationships -and awakened my deepest gifts.
Your Sexual Soul card from my original Power of the Yin Oracle Deck.
I incorporate the cards into each session, so they can support and inspire you throughout our journey.
Listen.
What do I mean when I talk about the “Sexual Soul”? This has been the topic of conversation on the many podcasts I’ve been privileged to be a guest on. You’ll also hear about the Power of the Yin, my oracle deck, and much more.
Watch.
This short film is an intimate look at my personal practice and a conversation about my relationship and constantly evolving understanding of the Power of the Yin, sexuality and our connection with the natural world.
This film is part of Genevieve Russell’s Women + Wholeness documentary series, which features extraordinary women who represent and exemplify wholeness, both personally and professionally.
Influences, Training & Teachers.
The Wheel of Consent created by Dr. Betty Martin*
Jeff Vander Clute Sourcing the Way
Sarah McCrum Money, Manifestation, Energy & Inner Technologies
MogaDao Institute, 2012-2014, qigong, sacred Daoist sexuality
Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy, Santa Fe School of Massage
Working with Babies, John Chitty, Colorado School of Energy Studies
Polarity Therapy, Anna Chitty & Elizabeth Chitty-Sandoval, Colorado School of Energy Studies
The Journey Inward (Feldenkrais), Diana Razumny
Integral Anatomy Laboratory Intensive, Gil Hedley
Two Moon Tango, Liz Haight
Love+Leche, 2005-2020, I created, ran and sold my business
I work in collaboration with
I am also a dancer, the mother of two grown children, and the only child of two artists.
I grew up in the Appalachian Mountains of upper East Tennessee. After living for 27 years in Santa Fe, New Mexico, I now work with clients all over the world in person and virtually.
*(Required disclaimer) I’m interested [actually passionate about] in the Wheel, but I have not studied with Betty or the School of Consent. For more information visit schoolofconsent.org . I have, however, served as an assistant in three Wheel of Consent Weekend Workshops with Adam Taffler in the UK.
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