My journey began with an unfulfilling marriage and the longing of my soul.
My sexuality was like a canary in a coal mine, singing its heart out, letting me know that something far larger was wrong in my marriage.
For 17 years I was in a marriage where sexual intimacy had died between us.
At the same time, I was filled with a barely containable longing and desire. What was going on?
Therapy didn’t help, and talking to my friends didn’t either. Most of them were in marriages where fulfilling sex was a thing of the past.
I tried to convince myself that turning away from this longing was a necessary sacrifice for the greater good of my marriage.
But I felt a part of me was dying.
It took leaving my marriage to discover that my longing was about much more than just sex. It was a longing of my life force energy, what I have come to call the Sexual Soul.
My Sexual Soul was alerting me not just to the sexual disconnection in my relationship, but in all the ways I couldn’t be my full self.
It led me into a study of sacred Daoist sexuality, qigong, the somatic healing arts, and the dynamics of receiving and giving through skills of consent.
It led me to create The Power of the Yin and to support people to embody their Sexual Souls as a source of pleasure, creativity and empowerment.
The four things I’ve learned on my journey
that form the foundation for all of my work:
My sexuality was like a canary in a coal mine, singing its heart out letting me know that something far larger was wrong in my marriage.
Once I began to express my sexuality I realized that it wasn’t just sex that was wrong with our marriage. Almost everything was. My sexuality and longing was a thread that once I pulled it, unraveled my entire marriage, revealing all the things I was blind to.
Our Sexual Soul is a taproot to our deepest truth.What I thought was ‘just libido’ was a longing of my soul.
Every wisdom tradition from the Himalayas to Indigenous cultures around the world recognizes that our sexual energy is our essential life-force energy—and that cultivating it is a necessary spiritual practice.
Our sexual energy is sacred, and when we deny it we deny our essential selves.My sexuality wasn’t just about having a good lover.
This energy is for me in everything I do and everything I am. This energy continually shows me where and how to heal. My desires guide my choices in every moment. My authenticity becomes safer and more liberating to express. And my life becomes more aligned, graceful—and delightful!
Cultivating our Sexual Soul is first and foremost about our relationship with the most intimate part of ourselves.Embracing the power of my yin energy switched on my Sexual Soul.
After a lifetime of living from my yang, discovering, trusting and cultivating my yin power transformed my sexual experiences and relationships—and awakened my deepest gifts.
Energetic dynamics in intimacy can make or break the sexual connection—and they impact every aspect of your life.
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What do I mean when I talk about the “Sexual Soul”? This has been the topic of conversation on the many podcasts I’ve been privileged to be a guest on. You’ll also hear about the Power of the Yin, my oracle deck, and much more.
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This short film is an intimate look at my personal practice and a conversation about my relationship and constantly evolving understanding of the Power of the Yin, sexuality and our connection with the natural world.
This film is part of Genevieve Russell’s Women + Wholeness documentary series, which features extraordinary women who represent and exemplify wholeness, both personally and professionally.
This conversation with Anna Glowaka was in preparation for my Hello, Sexual Soul series of online sessions and in-person workshop in London at Moon: Three Age Women’s Health in the fall of 2023.
In this video I discuss what I mean by “Sexual Soul”, what to expect in my group sessions and workshops, my “Power of the Yin” approach to working, the transformation that is possible when you notice and open to your fear, and how to know if this work is for you.
The Power of the Yin Oracle Deck.
I’m the creator of an original 58-card oracle deck that connects you with the wisdom of the Yin.
Created in collaboration with artist D. Yael Bernhard, this deck was created as a beautiful and supportive tool of self-exploration for my clients.
Learn more and purchase at YinOracle.com.
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The Wheel of Consent created by Dr. Betty Martin
Jeff Vander Clute Sourcing the Way
Sarah McCrum Money, Manifestation, Energy & Inner Technologies
MogaDao Institute, 2012-2014, qigong, sacred Daoist sexuality
Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy, Santa Fe School of Massage
Working with Babies, John Chitty, Colorado School of Energy Studies
Polarity Therapy, Anna Chitty & Elizabeth Chitty-Sandoval, Colorado School of Energy Studies
The Journey Inward (Feldenkrais), Diana Razumny
Integral Anatomy Laboratory Intensive, Gil Hedley
Two Moon Tango, Liz Haight
Love+Leche, 2005-2020, I created, ran and sold my business
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I am also a dancer, the mother of two grown children, and the only child of two artists.
I grew up in the Appalachian Mountains of upper East Tennessee. After living for 27 years in Santa Fe, New Mexico, I now work with clients all over the world in person and virtually.
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